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Rejection – Right in the "Feels"
Excuse the casual jargon, but rejection definitely hurts. My intuition recently told me that I needed to read the “Be Resilient After Rejection” chapter of A Writer’s Guide to Persistence. My intuition was so right about me needing to read it, too. I used the authors.me platform to submit Frost to an agent a while back, and it got rejected recently. I’ve actually had several projects get shot down recently. There’s no way around it…rejection really sucks.
I loathe rejection. It’s hard as hell for me to deal with. Honestly, it was painful enough that I considered giving up writing altogether. If I’m not making any money off it, I’m just being a burden to my husband. He doesn’t feel that way about it, but I do. It’s a really hard blow to my self-confidence. I went through all the stages of rejection that Jordan Rosenfeld talks about in the “Be Resilient After Rejection” chapter.
I went through the hope-crushing sting. I definitely went though a soul-crushing wave of shame and the following heavy cloud of discouragement. (“I’m never going to be good enough to be published; I should just quit while I’m ahead.”) I am just now attempting to drag myself out of the inaction phase because I dread falling into the inertia phase. I may not be good enough to be published yet, but I will be, someday. I will keep trying.
Rejection – Right in the “Feels”
Excuse the casual jargon, but rejection definitely hurts. My intuition recently told me that I needed to read the “Be Resilient After Rejection” chapter of A Writer’s Guide to Persistence. My intuition was so right about me needing to read it, too. I used the authors.me platform to submit Frost to an agent a while back, and it got rejected recently. I’ve actually had several projects get shot down recently. There’s no way around it…rejection really sucks.
I loathe rejection. It’s hard as hell for me to deal with. Honestly, it was painful enough that I considered giving up writing altogether. If I’m not making any money off it, I’m just being a burden to my husband. He doesn’t feel that way about it, but I do. It’s a really hard blow to my self-confidence. I went through all the stages of rejection that Jordan Rosenfeld talks about in the “Be Resilient After Rejection” chapter.
I went through the hope-crushing sting. I definitely went though a soul-crushing wave of shame and the following heavy cloud of discouragement. (“I’m never going to be good enough to be published; I should just quit while I’m ahead.”) I am just now attempting to drag myself out of the inaction phase because I dread falling into the inertia phase. I may not be good enough to be published yet, but I will be, someday. I will keep trying.
Is Busy Best?
I’ve been doing a little prep for Camp NaNoWriMo the past few days, and by prep I mean reading No Plot? No Problem! by Chris Baty. In it, Baty states that there’s no better time to work on your novel than when you’re already busy. Part of me has a hard time believing that, but that’s probably just because I have ADD and I’m easily overwhelmed due to my personal organization challenges. One thing I can say for myself, however, is that I do seem to do better and work harder when I have impending deadlines hanging over my head.
I’ve got a very busy July ahead of me. So, I guess we’ll see if busy really is better!
Struggling
I really wanted to post something insightful and relevant today, but I’m having such a hard time focusing right now that it doesn’t look like that’s going to happen. Why am I struggling so hard to focus and find something good to share here? Is it the general and hormonal discomforts of the third trimester? Is it my current project that I can’t tell you about because I’m going to publish it under a pen name? Is it sheer exhaustion?
I honestly don’t know what my problem is right now. Sigh. Maybe I’ll just go do some work on the project that hath no name.
What Now?
So, after working on my first novel for the past eleven years, I really don’t know what to do with myself now that I’ve finished the first edition and it’s out in the world. I’m having this vague, restless, listless feeling that I don’t really know how to deal with.
I know I have other things I need to be focusing on right now. I have MTE school to finish. I have a house that is in DESPERATE need of a good top-to-bottom reorganization/cleaning. I guess I’m just confused because I thought being done with this novel would feel like more of a relief than it does. I thought I’d feel more celebratory, more ecstatic. Right now, all I feel is deflated.
Maybe I just need to decompress for a while? I know I need to look at what my goals are for the future, now that I’ve accomplished the biggest goal I had set for 2017. I set out for 2017 to be the year I finally let Frost go, and I’m certain I’ve achieved that. So, what do I do now?
If you’re interested in my personal goals, feel free to check out my personal blogs: We’re the Moyes (A Chronicle of My Adventures With My Wonderful Husband, Lake, As We Try To Adult Without A Manual) and Chelsea Moye (Random Commentary & Observations On My Life).
As for my writing goals for 2017, I’m feeling pretty vague on that point right now. Completing and submitting Frost by the deadline I set for myself knocked out three of the biggest goals I had written down in my “Goals” Notebook. (I keep all different kinds of notebooks and journals for various reasons, and I also recently started doing my own, modified not-so-pretty version of bullet journaling.) The only writing goal I currently have is incredibly vague: I want to publish a romance novel before 2017 ends.
I guess it’s a place to start? Anyway, I’m going to make a concerted effort to blog more consistently across all my blogs as a collective. If there’s a day I don’t post here, check the two personal blogs for posts and vice versa.
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