Excuse the casual jargon, but rejection definitely hurts. My intuition recently told me that I needed to read the “Be Resilient After Rejection” chapter of A Writer’s Guide to Persistence. My intuition was so right about me needing to read it, too. I used the authors.me platform to submit Frost to an agent a while back, and it got rejected recently. I’ve actually had several projects get shot down recently. There’s no way around it…rejection really sucks.
I loathe rejection. It’s hard as hell for me to deal with. Honestly, it was painful enough that I considered giving up writing altogether. If I’m not making any money off it, I’m just being a burden to my husband. He doesn’t feel that way about it, but I do. It’s a really hard blow to my self-confidence. I went through all the stages of rejection that Jordan Rosenfeld talks about in the “Be Resilient After Rejection” chapter.
I went through the hope-crushing sting. I definitely went though a soul-crushing wave of shame and the following heavy cloud of discouragement. (“I’m never going to be good enough to be published; I should just quit while I’m ahead.”) I am just now attempting to drag myself out of the inaction phase because I dread falling into the inertia phase. I may not be good enough to be published yet, but I will be, someday. I will keep trying.